Not sure how long to hang on in there?

I have had a few views but nothing on the main content. Maybe I’m going about this all wrong and so I have deleted all my nude selfies. Yes, I don’t have a body that women would drool over and yet I’m not massively overweight either. More Seth Rogan than Chris Hemsworth or Fat Albert. Fairly normal. Still, not one single view.

I did get a few views for my CFNM post. Did any of those people go on to look into the other posts? Maybe I’m a crap writer because I prefer the honest raw style to the careful and considered literary fiction writer who carefully ponders every word.

In frustration, I have deleted all the posts with nude photos. Was this a mistake? Not sure but I have the feeling that no one wants to see it.


CFNM has the most views so far

Out of all the posts that I have made, the one that received the most views is the CFNM article. Now I’m not a polished writer. I write this as I go with a small amount of correction. The main reason for this is that I want my posts to feel genuine and not constructed. Still, one proof read to make sure what I write makes sense should be allowed. Maybe it was the writing quality that put them off making a comment. I don’t know. Just out of curiosity, I wonder if I do a second CFNM article, if that gets more views.

This is spur of the moment and my original article had my main CFNM fantasy in it. Still, one of the things that I also find curious is, what kind of body women find interesting. Do they want a buff, muscled body of some twenty-something? Would they prefer a dad bod of a forty-something? While I doubt it, there might even be some women out there that would like to see a really fat guy. In end effect, I think that everyone should be allowed to enjoy the person that they like.

Me personally, I’ve always favored normal looking women over the dolled up types. There is a beauty there that is often overlooked. Here is a confession, there is one mum at my daughters school who I find very attractive. Luckily, here children are a bit older than my daughter so there is not much contact needed. Also she does sound a little too ocker* for my tastes which helps. Physically, she ticks all my boxes. My wife would not be happy if she knew. Even when nothing would ever happen. I’ve never had something with a workplace colleague so why would I start here.

So to finish off, if you are female and reading this, please leave a comment as to what kind of man you would want for some CFNM fun. If you are male, feel free to be honest and say what kind of body you have and if you would even participate in some CFNM fun. A special bonus to the mums and dads dropping off their school kids. Are there other parents that you fancy? We are only human and so this is perfectly OK and quite normal.


*Ocker means speaking with a stronger Australian accent which I don’t find that attractive.


I’ve read some interesting articles on nudity here and it seems to be that the general population has a really big problem with it. The spectrum of this problem however is very wide.

Some freak out and have a serious problem. To these people, I can say only this. Please talk to a professional councilor (I mean a psychologist, not a priest), they will make your life infinitely better and easier. There is nothing to be afraid of. I’m not having a religion bash here, it is just that a Priest or someone connected to the church is, to be honest, biased towards their ideology. I don’t have a problem with that, in some cases it is helpful. Here it is not. A good psychologist on the other hand wants to help you but they are NOT on your side and neither should they be. They actively listen to you, see what the problem is and give you tools in which to cope with this/these problem(s). Sounds simple, but it is in fact very courageous and requires effort on your part.

Sorry for the sidestep but I felt the need to clarify it.

Then we move through the spectrum to those who don’t want to see it but just get embarrassed when they do. I put my hand up, as a teenager on holiday, I walked in on my friends mum in her underwear and I got embarrassed. She found my embarrassment cute in away and was not offended. Now I look back on it and see her point entirely. She wasn’t embarrassed and had no need to be. There wasn’t anything remotely sexual about it. In fact she wore a bikini that was as revealing as the underwear, so where was the problem? Upon consideration, I would have to put it down to the fact that it was underwear and that we shouldn’t see it. What a load of rubbish!

Again we move through the spectrum. If I covered everyone, we would be here all day, and night! There are those who accept shower nudity but nowhere else. Ok, if you have a problem with shower nudity, then please see the second chapter because showering/bathing with clothes on is seriously weird and just plain wrong. Back on topic now. My family falls into this category. Shower nudity, steer clear, nothing to see, don’t want to be seen. No surprises that I’m comfortable with this attitude even when I no longer agree with it. I think when you are somewhere in this category, it is more a problem with being seen naked. This could range from shame to not wanting to give offense. The best thing if you fall into this category is to experience a few nude beaches or if you live in Europe, then go to the large sauna parks. Time and experience will show you that diverse body shapes are the norm and ok.

I think once you get beyond any of these and get to a point where “in house” nudity is ok then, to be honest, you have a healthy appreciation of the human body. Our household lies here. My six year old of course doesn’t see nudity and anything but not wearing clothes. She sees and feels no shame which is the way it should be. My wife and I are not constantly naked at home but when I come in from the garden dripping in sweat, I hang up my garden clothes to dry and put my undies in the wash. Then walk into the kitchen nude for a drink. I stand and drink my drink as if I would be fully clothed. My daughter acts around me the same as if I were fully clothed. In any circumstance where my wife and I are naked around the house, we act no differently to when we are clothed and this I feel is a very good way to be. There is nothing remotely sexual about this. Why should there be?

I believe that we are providing our daughter with some very important lessons. I want that she grows up with a feeling of understanding that the human body comes in all shapes and sizes. That Hollywood does not set the standard that we should all aim to. I want that she has a feeling of self worth. I feel that this is easier when we are more accepting of our naked body. There is nothing to be afraid of.


While this is a little off topic, I find that here I can have a look at a number of things. The world is a varied place and there is certainly room for everyone. What I find interesting is that there seems to be a niche in CFNM that hasn’t had much room.

I might be wrong here, but CFNM tends to fall into the category of female domination of men. As long as everyone is willing and in most cases this is the case, then go for it. Make yourselves happy.

Me on the other hand, have found CFNM appealing long before I ever heard these initials. I can remember years ago seeing an add where an older lady wanted a young male to visit her from time to time and basically just hang out naked. She reserved the right to touch him but wanted to also reserve the right to remain clothed if she so wished. For me this sounded perfect but back then I was just too shy and unfortunately I have regretted not trying to contact this woman ever since.

While this does sound somewhat femdom, it seems more equal. Both sides agree to meet up. Both sides agree to wear or not wear clothes. Both sides agree to let her touch his genitals. Both sides agree to possibly take it further.

Oddly enough, I have developed a fantasy that just won’t go away. Realistically it most likely will never come true but does it need to? Not sure.

It is somewhat simple.

Firstly, it is myself naked. Either one woman clothed or a small group of women all clothed. I then serve tea and coffee plus cake to the lady/ladies. If the lady/ladies wish for me to sit with her/them, then I will sit, eat and drink with them. I then clean up the plates and cups. As far as rules are concerned. I can be touched anywhere but it must be gentle. So no hard yanking of my penis or shoving fingers up my bottom. The ladies choose to either watch or participate. Nothing could happen or we could have sex and it is up to her/them.

There is no domination and it is all very respectful. Considering that I enjoy giving oral sex, this is definitely something that I would be happy to include. I do get a lot of enjoyment from pleasuring. Some might see this as some kind of submissiveness, but I see subdom as being something else. I might be wrong here.

Welcome blog post

Welcome one and all. Having a body like a Hollywood actor is just too much hard work for a mere mortal. To be honest, it not all that healthy anyhow. In fact, it seems to be more soul destroying anyhow. Who wants that?

Now I’m a little overweight and need to lose some kilos. They will go with time, but I also want to get a little fitter and a bit stronger too. So I have joined a gym. Try as I might, I will also do what I can to reduce the intake of bad foods. Cutting them out completely is hard work and often leads to a bad binge. We’ve all been there. Every bit of junk food skipped helps just a little, so it stands to reason that if we occasionally fail and eat some junk food, it only hurts just a little. The trick is that we need to help ourselves more than we hurt ourselves.

I will be adding some photo’s of myself on this journey to a slightly better me. Now, to warn all of you, this will be an honest blog and so when I say look OK naked, I mean naked! Yes, I will put up photo’s of myself naked here. In the cause of decency, I will ensure that the boring bits like knees and feet are not included (a heartfelt apologies to all those foot fetishists out there). One other thing, I have a head for radio and will comply with the Geneva Convention on human rights; so my head wont be seen. I can hear the future echo’s of millions of people sighing in relief. You are all most welcome.

Lastly, we are all on this earth to enjoy ourselves and have some fun so please enjoy. Feel free to ask me anything.

Signed the Mystery Blogger

P.S. How original!

P.P.S. A name should come soon but some photos will come sooner.